Is Divorce Stress Damaging your Health?

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Divorce Stress Headaches

Can the emotional firestorm you are experiencing during divorce make you sick?

Not only can divorce make you sick emotionally, it can definitely impact your health in many negative ways.

In his book, Deadly Emotions, Don Colbert, M.D. explains that “The body cannot differentiate between stress that physical factors cause and stress that emotional factors cause. Stress is stress.”

As our bodies react to  the up and down swings of emotions during divorce that include fear, anger, frustration, grief and rage, these stresses causes the body to become flooded with the fight- flight or freeze hormones of adrenaline, cortisol and norepinephrine. ”

“The perpetual release of the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol can sear the body in a way that is similar to acid searing metal. Even hours after any immediate stress-producing incident has subsided, these hormone levels can remain high and continue to do their damaging work.”

Not only do these elevated hormone levels affect our ability to concentrate and carry on our daily routines, according to Dr. Colbert, “Medical Research is showing more and more that there may be a mind-body connection to most diseases and ailments, not just a few.”

How does the emotional stress of divorce affect us physically? Our immune system responses get disrupted leaving us with health conditions such as migraine headaches, gastrointestinal disorders, skin problems, TMJ, heart disease and autoimmune disorders such as lupus and fibromyalgia.

What can you do the next time you feel a surge of rage starting to overtake you during divorce?  Sometimes, the best thing you can do is find a way to get physical.

Sometimes you just want to throw things!

I recommend that you invest in a supply of cheap glassware you can throw.

Trying out some new physical activities along with learning some meditation and visualization exercises can provide significant benefits to both your emotional and physical health.

Finding someone you can trust to confide in who isn’t judgmental is also essential for dealing with the stress that comes with divorce and co-parenting frustrations.

Letting the air out of the storm of pressure building up inside of you could be just what you need to quell  the emotional firestorm that comes along with divorce.



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