How to Deal with Changes during Separation and Divorce

Tidal wave of Separation and divorce

Changes during Divorce

“One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”

                                                             — Andre Gide

Dealing with changes during separation and divorce often feels overwhelming and unmanageable. Instead of standing on familiar ground, you’re suddenly tumbling through the air like a tidal wave.

You may experience significant changes in so many parts of your life all at once: financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually and also struggling with parenting as well.

The changes that come along with separation and divorce cut across all the parts of our lives.

Are you feeling threatened and anxious as you find yourself having to make decisions you never wanted to have to make? Are you feeling unsafe and unsure about who to turn to for confidential, unbiased guidance and support?

Fear of the unknown can be terrifying.  The process of coming to terms with facing the changes you are going through takes up every single ounce of your concentration, energy and focus.

It is a challenge to learn how to accept the knowledge that right now you are living in an unknown land.  Eventually you will be able to learn new skills and strategies to manage these changes as you move forward through divorce.

Getting from where you are now to the land where you are going requires that you allow yourself the space and time you’ll need and taking in a big deep breath as you head into the eye of the storm.


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  1. “Taking a deep breath” is always such valid advice and an ever welcome reminder.

    I’m visiting from the Ultimate Blog Challenge. I see how your site is such an important addition to the world. THANK YOU for that!

  2. Visiting from UBC too. Have been there and come out the other side in one piece. Would have been easier with the support a site like this provides though 🙂

  3. Another great & meaningful post, Nancy!