Getting Stronger through Divorce

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Getting Stronger through Divorce

Although I have read many, many books about how to survive divorce, there is one in particular I often turn to over and over again.

Therapist and Divorce Coach Susan Pease Gadoua’s book, “Stronger Day by Day” is that small book of wisdom that reaches out to me like a starfish when I’m struggling to  find my way through the storm.

Susan’s creative way of putting together each short chapter is both comforting and healing as I have grieved and experienced every emotion under the sun while coming to terms with divorce and the loss of my 20 year marriage.

In her introduction Susan describes how she designed each chapter:

“This book is a series of reflections. Each short chapter begins with a quote. Then follows the reflection itself– an elaboration or explanation of the quote intended to make it easier to apply the words to your own life.  And, at the end of each section there is an affirmation, written in the first person, to reinforce positive and empowering thoughts and beliefs. There is also an exercise– for example, a journaling exercise, a meditation or both.”

Each chapter is a dynamic blend of  thought-provoking wisdom and reflective insights to guide our thinking as we confront all the challenges that  come along with separation, divorce and co-parenting.

As Susan wisely points out, we cannot control what happens to us, but we can control what we are thinking.

By reflecting on our losses, pain, grieving and anger and then focusing on affirming thoughts, we can start to calm down the frantic chattering squirrels inside our heads, opening ourselves up for healing as we get continue to get stronger day by day.



Please let me know your thoughts in the Comments Section below.


  1. Nancy, I am going to Amazon to order this book today AND recommending your site to a friend of mine who is in the midst of her divorce. I went through my divorce 11 years ago and watching her struggle has brought it all back. I told her, “welcome to the club nobody wants to join” and she is gravitating towards those of us that have walked through the fire and made it to the other side. I’m so glad I found this site, for her, for me, and for all the women who find themselves in the club. Thanks!

  2. Good comments Nancy. Everyone grieves differently and a 20 year marriage is a long time to be with someone. I’m glad you’ve found your coping tools to help you through the tough times and see happier ones on the horizon.