How to Divorce a Narcissist without Losing your Mind

  Are you divorcing a narcissist and not really sure how to get started and what you need to know? Is the thought of a permanent split so overwhelming that you just delay taking meaningful action or feel frozen in place during the separation or divorce process? You are not alone. When I finally made […]

5 Ways that Silence Kills a Relationship

   He never truly listens to me and shuts me out so what’s the use in talking? I know that their mind is made up, so there’s no point bringing up that problem again. Let’s just get through this upsetting day…weekend…season…. and deal with stuff later. Has silence become a way of life in your […]

Are you Trying too Hard to be Friends with your Ex?

  Are you trying too hard to be friends with your ex-husband? Do you believe that staying friends for the kids’ sake is the ‘right’ thing to do? In what ways is staying attached to him beneficial to you? Regardless of why you now find yourself divorced and long after the court sends you a […]

Communicating with a High Conflict Spouse without Losing your Mind

Are you dealing with a high conflict spouse as you go through separation and divorce? Pass the chocolate cake, valium and a meditation CD please! Although going through divorce often brings out the worst side of a person’s personality, if you are married to someone with a high conflict personality, even small things you are […]

Do you have An Unsinkable Soul?

Can you think of a specific moment in your life when suddenly everything changed? Have you discovered that you must face a lengthy battle with a chronic illness? Fallen into the deep, slimy pit of depression and unable to climb out on your own?  Have you been blindsided by the abrupt departure of someone you […]

Is your Marriage Dying on the Vine of Neglect?

Death by a thousand cuts. A marriage may end this way. Erupting wildly like angry lava spewing over the top of a pressure filled chamber that lies deep beneath its dark, multi-sided surface. Or marriage can die an agonizing and slower death by neglect. Too many work demands and frustrating conversations about your jobs that […]

The Infidelity Diet

“I love you but I’m not in love with you.” His words swirled and buzzed around me like a fly trying to hastily flee by searching for the quickest way out of the hole in our family’s window screen. There were more words. But none that could ever reasonably explain why my husband was leaving […]

Got Rage? How to Deal with Anger and Rage During Divorce

How are you dealing with your anger before, during and after divorce? I remember spending the first year of my divorce crying my eyes out and trying to make sense out of my husband’s infidelities and the verbal and emotional abuse he dished out on an on-going basis during the 20 years we were together. […]

Money and Divorce: Will You End Up Homeless?

Do your fears about how much money divorce will cost and the soul-sickening fears of running out of money keep you up late at night? The all-encompassing fear of running out of money can hold us back right from the very time we start seriously considering divorce and continue to torment us with its relentless, […]

Does your T-Shirt say Divorced- Damaged Goods?

I never, ever, ever thought that I would be checking off that nosy marital status box on forms – DIVORCED. Thrown into the storm of divorce after discovering my husband’s complicated secret life and finding out that he had no remorse or plans to change, I screamed and fought my way through divorce like a […]