I know that their mind is made up, so there’s no point bringing up that problem again.
Let’s just get through this upsetting day…weekend…season…. and deal with stuff later.
Has silence become a way of life in your relationship? Despite the ease that lack of confrontation and slipping into silence can bring, long standing patterns of silence eventually burn through the energy force leaving blackened, charred remains after the untamed fire finally burns itself out
- Silence chokes off your expressive needs- often leading to frustration, misunderstandings and contributing to the lack of verbal and emotional intimacy- creating even more distance between two people despite the outward appearance that they are getting along
- Unexpressed problems don’t just go away- silence and lack of communication pushes them underneath the surface for some period of time, yet weeks or months later they often flare up again as painful insults and allegations that have now become more exaggerated and extreme
- Silence is controlling-some people use silence as a powerful means to withdraw from the relationship, eliminating the opportunity for meaningful communication and resolution of problems- while also refusing to validate the other person’s perception of what is really going on
- Silence can be used to punish- when the other person reaches out to the silent partner, they are given no opportunity to try to more clearly understand or resolve issues that divide them
- Silence leads to depression, despair and giving up- when silence becomes the default mode within the relationship, distance continues to widen and those who are struggling may try to cope by turning to addictive substances, secretive activities or taking part in risky behaviors
What can you do when Silence becomes a way of life in your relationship?
Recognize the fact that Silence kills relationships—but even though you may be there now, you don’t have to stay there.
Invest in yourself by getting help and guidance to move forward and find your true voice.