A New Home Equals A New Post-Divorce Start

Moving due to Divorce

Moving during Divorce

It is easy to feel like you’re alone as you go through a divorce — but you’re not. According to the CDC, almost 4 out of 1,000 people will also experience divorce this year. That’s a lot of people making decisions about who’s going to take the dog and where they’re going to live.

As overwhelming as it all feels, the little decisions you make today are going to determine how satisfying your post-marriage life will be.

In order to stay emotionally healthy while going through a divorce, it’s helpful to pursue some of  your long-neglected passions and learn to see the positive in your situation. You have the opportunity to build a new life and to construct it in a way that makes you proud and excited.

Will you rent out the home you owned with your spouse and build a life for yourself in a new space? Rather than look around your home remembering the times you had with your former partner, why not move into a new space that allows you to build new, fresh memories? If you’re on the fence about creating a new life in a new home, there are a few facts you should consider:

You Won’t Go it Alone

Once you’ve decided the best thing to do is to rent your place out and find a fresh home to build the foundation of your new life, you will have support. Groups like American-apartment-owners-association.org will walk you through the process. Everything — from landlord forms and information on tenant screening, to an exclusive contractor directory — is available to help those who rent out an apartment. The days of having to move from one source to another to find solid information are long gone.

Focus on the Future

The experts at Mediate.com note that much of your healing involves acceptance and focusing on the future. Leaving the marital home, finding a tenant, and discovering a place where you would rather live are all about looking forward and creating a life molded by your own picture of the life you want to live.

Occupy Your Time

If you find yourself obsessing about your ex, it could be a sign that you need to create something new to focus your attention on, says The Huffington Post. Getting over a breakup is hard, but finding a new home, decorating it in a way that is pleasing to you, having friends over to christen the new place, and building memories there are all effective ways to occupy your time in a healthy and constructive way.

Make it Your Own

Imagine empty rooms filled only with the furnishings and artwork that appeal to you: not designing your new space to the specifications of your spouse or other family members.  A home that is brand new to you offers an opportunity to create a one-of-kind space that you’ll be glad to come home to each day.

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Comments

  1. This post contains great suggestions for those starting over after a divorce. I love the idea of moving to a new location.

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  2. I have never been through a divorce but these are great tips. Thanks for sharing this. Anita

  3. Great post – going thru a divorce is harsh and hurtful even if it is for the best…and these tips are right on – I was just a baby still myself when I went thru my divorce….but now happily married 20 years! 🙂 Big smiles