Got Rage? How to Deal with Anger and Rage During Divorce

Angry, raging woman

Rage during Divorce

How are you dealing with your anger before, during and after divorce?

I remember spending the first year of my divorce crying my eyes out and trying to make sense out of my husband’s infidelities and the verbal and emotional abuse he dished out on an on-going basis during the 20 years we were together.

Trying to make sense out of all sorts of crazy scenes and arguments we’d had that made no sense to me left me exhausted and hurt nearly every day. It was not until I started going to a therapist every week after I filed for divorce that I began to start turning the pages from shock and grief to anger and all-out rage.

My therapist said that this suppressed anger I was finally beginning to fully feel was healthy and a sign that I was making progress. But anger was very frightening to me as well since I had been conditioned from my parents, church and those around me to deny that I even harbored anger and rage and I was encouraged to bury it to avoid the damage it could cause.

Are you experiencing anger and rage because of divorce?

How can you express the rage you are feeling in a physical way? One businesswoman in Dallas, Texas has started a thriving business that provides an Anger Room where people rent time to smash furniture, lamps and electronics with crowbars and bats.

You can see the Anger Room in action here:

Although I have never been to the Anger Room myself, I remember feeling rage and shattering many bottles of men’s colognes that my husband had left behind when he moved out.

That bottle of Eternity cologne?

Smashed into tiny pieces of glass!

How have you dealt with anger and rage during divorce?

Please let me know your thoughts in the Comments Section below.

Comments

  1. Hello,

    I’ve never personally went through a divorce but I know initially it can be painful. At the time, it’s a start to begin a new life and start a new life the way you want it. It’s also a great way to move forward in life with no one stopping you. Great article and video. 🙂

  2. I hear you on the society conditioning people and specially women on not showing their anger. Finding a safe way to express the supressed emotions is chore to the grieving process.

  3. Great post – I was so young when I went through my divorce – I was also in counseling and focused on being a single mom – all of that helped me through the disappointment and hurt. 🙂