Designing your Home After Divorce

Redecorating Home after Divorce

Your Home After Divorce

Ever thought about redecorating or redesigning your home due to divorce?

Author Sharon Lacrosse shares some ideas here about about how redecorating our post-divorce home in a fresh way can benefit us both emotionally and in many other ways as well.

Divorce can be frustrating, heartbreaking and scary. The truth is though, it’s fairly common. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, nearly four out of every 1,000 adults will get divorced each year. No matter how overwhelming the idea of starting over may feel, you’re not alone.

There is new breed of decorator who caters only to the recently divorced, The New York Times notes. Those in the field of post-divorce decorating believe their field is poised for an upswing. According to Andrew Cherlin, a professor at Johns Hopkins University, divorce rates in the U.S. have dropped since 2008 – much as they did during the Great Depression. However, Dr. Cherlin believes that this drop is due to poor economic conditions in which couples are concerned about their ability to live separately. Dr. Cherlin predicts that as the economy improves, more couples will move toward divorce, and there will be an increase in the number of separate residences that will need to be furnished.

While divorce can be a sad occassion, there is nothing about your post-divorce home that needs to feel somber. In fact, creating a new space for yourself can feel like renewal, a chance to work from a clean slate.

Staying in the Connubial Home

Divorce360.com offers one piece of advice for anyone who remains in the marital home post-divorce — change it. Visual changes can help support emotional ones. You have a brand new life so allow your home to reflect it. Sure, you may be working with a tight budget, but there are plenty of things you can do on the cheap.

Change the colors of the walls to better reflect what you want your life to be moving forward. Color is a very powerful thing. Color consultants say that certain colors can evoke a particular mood and that some colors lend themselves better than others to the activities expected to take place in a room. For example, warm earth tones like reds, yellows and oranges are thought to stimulate conversation and are good for common areas. Cool colors — like blues, greens and lavenders — will work well in an area where you want a little calm, like a bedroom.

Winnowing Down

There’s nothing like the furniture you once shared with your spouse or a picture you choose as a couple to remind you of your time together. If possible, choose only the furnishings you adore, and live with as few pieces as you need. You can slowly add things throughout the years, but when you’re starting over, do it with as few reminders of the past as possible.

Think of Yourself

Now is the time to do things that make you happy. Bring out those items your ex-spouse was not so fond of: fluffy pillows on the sofa, artwork you picked up while you single, and anything else that brings you pleasure. Buy new bedding that gives you a sense of peace when you walk into your room. Look into home alarm systems for an extra measure of comfort. According to LifeShield.com, monitoring services begin at $29.99 a month, a small price to pay for peace of mind as you begin your new life.

Your home environment meets both practical and psychological needs, says a study conducted by The University of Texas at Austin. You have it within your power to celebrate this new stage in your life — the first step just might be redecorating.

What changes have you made to your home during or after divorce?

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